Socially Hooking Up9

by Star Padilla

There have been some crazy stories that come from reconnecting with people from our pasts via Facebook, MySpace, PlentyofFish, etc. I understand the allure, especially when it’s someone who we were crushing on or possibly even involved intimately with in our high school and college lives. It’s definitely interesting to see how these peoples lives turned out, what road they took and where they have ended up today.

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It’s fascinating to see some people rekindling relationships 10+ years later with their old flames or crushes, but I have to ask why? Maybe because some part of us has always held onto that ‘what if’ or the ‘one that got away’ mentality and are interested in exploring the possibilities of what could be. Or (I’m completely talking out of my ass) maybe it has less to do with the person then what it has to do with a time in our lives that was simple. We had little responsibility, were open to possibilities, life experiences, love… and we weren’t quite changed or jaded by adulthood yet.

Now when reconnecting with guys from my past, I do a double take and wonder if there’s a motive behind finding me. Maybe it’s completely harmless, but step back and understand the attraction and what it really means in the scope of reality .

The power of nostalgia to create an illusion of  ‘the good old days’ is such a trap when we experience dissatisfaction in our lives. When I reminisce about high school and college, I’ll be quite honest, I have no regrets, but a handful of what ifs. Though I sometimes think it would be nice to have that ‘fairy tale’ story with ‘that’ guy from high school or college, I snap myself back into reality and tell myself it’s just that. A ‘fairy tale’ story.

I’m optimistic that one day I will find my guy, but right now, I can’t say my countless social networking sites are getting me any closer to finding him. Or maybe they are and I’m completely oblivious.

My 10 year old little sister mentioned I need a husband in my life. Yes: I said 10 years old and I said husband. So if I’m not going to utilize my past, I’ll be damned if I won’t utilize my future as I’m not getting any younger.

Now accepting applications and credit reports of potentials.