by SG’s Team Agony feat. Yulia

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q: Last summer my wife and I split up simply because she felt lonely, which is my fault completely. We did end up getting back together, but my problem is sex, which was once great has died away. She never feels like having it any more. She doesn’t even want oral sex either. Sex is not the most important thing to me, but I feel it is definitely hurting the relationship. I have tried everything in and out of the book, but have come up empty and am having thoughts about exploring my options. Is there anything I can do to restart my sex life back with my wife? I miss the fun we had.

A: Kudos to you for recognizing that your past behavior may have caused or contributed to your current situation. It’s also very brave of you both to give your relationship a second chance. This shows you each recognized a strong connection and believe it’s worth saving.

Since you say you’re not having much sex anymore, I’m going to assume you had sex more regularly pre-breakup. Your wife may be concerned that renewing your sex life together will begin a slippery slope back down to the loneliness she felt before your time apart. I don’t know how long you two have been back together, but even if it’s been months, you may still be rebuilding trust. Because sex is the most intimate act, it can be easy to assume that just because you’re sleeping with someone you know them well and are spending quality time together. And you are, but it’s often not enough. I have friends I’ve never kissed that I know more deeply than people I have slept with. It’s likely that this is the level of connection that your wife wants, and she may be trying hard to build a strong foundation first before she will let loose.

You need to make your wife feel special and special to YOU, like you want her and not just sex, period. But don’t just treat her to the traditional stuff (flowers, and restaurants), try branching out and giving her quality time where you can enjoy each other’s company as well as each other’s bodies.

Most of all, be patient. Your wife wouldn’t have gotten back together with you if she didn’t hope to rekindle the old fire. She might just be trying a different method this time to see if the bond will be stronger.

Best of luck.

Yulia

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by Sex Toy Expert Moxi Suicide

If you don’t know who Phil Varone is, you’re probably not as into hair metal as I am. Phil was/is the drummer for all kinds of bands like Saigon Kick, Skid Row and Vince Neil’s solo act – and he also happens to make sex toys.

Let me just say that I run in the same social circle as his girlfriend and before I even started my Powers Tools blog I heard about Phil coming out with his own line of erotic playthings and my curiosity was piqued, so I begged Phil’s girl to send me one of his toys.

Time passed, my Power Tools column got into gear, and I was becoming impatient to test out Phil’s wares. Eventually he put me in touch with manufacturer Cal Exotics, who were kind enough to ship almost the complete line of Phil Varone toys to me.

Opening a box of sex toys is like peeking in my stocking at Christmas; it’s so exciting that I often have no idea where to begin. I rummaged around and saw the “Rock Hard Nipple Clamps.” I have always wanted to try nipple clamps, but must admit that I never have. I like a lot of pressure on my nipples and figured that now was as good of a time as any to try them out.

I put Cheap Trick’s album In Color on and gingerly applied the clamps to my nipples. Woah, ow! I took them off and examined them. I noticed that they were adjustable and that I could set the pressure at different levels. I re-adjusted and applied them to my nipples once again. Ah, I had found the perfect “someone is biting on your nipples” pressure.

At this point, I was getting a little turned on and realized that the clamps should be used in conjunction with another toy, like one of my favorites, the Nubby Bullet. I reached for my bullet and admired the silvery chain of the clamps against my chest as I leaned over. The clamps have a continuous sexy sting and unlike your partner’s mouth, these nipple clamps don’t get tired. It was really nice to have a bit of extra naughty sensation during my regular playtime. And I have to say, as a first time nipple clamp user, I’m thoroughly impressed.

xx
Moxi

You can get a backstage pass to Phil Varone’s Sex, Toys, and Rock & Roll collection here.

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by Daniel Robert Epstein

“As long as we enjoy playing music together, then that’s what I want to do.”
– Gary Powell

The Libertines have had a tough time during the past couple of years. After breaking out with their first song, “What a Waster,” they quickly descended into a Behind the Music-like hell when their frontman Pete Doherty became a heavy drug addict, nearly causing the breakup of the band.

But that’s all behind them now; They’’re releasing their latest self-titled album and it’’s their best one yet. I got a chance to talk with Libertines drummer Gary Powell.

Read our interview with Gary Powell on SuicideGirls.com.

Arabella Suicide in The Mill

• INTO: Fire-breathing, love, romance and bubble baths. I’m totally pirate obsessed!!! I collect all things pirate. I love pirates…I am one!
• NOT INTO: Lethargy.
• MAKES ME HAPPY: A smile.
• MAKES ME SAD: A frown.
• HOBBIES: Finding buried treasure!

Get to know Arabella better over at SuicideGirls.com!