Got Problems? Sex, Love and Relationship Advice From SuicideGirls’ Team Agony0
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Squee
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
Q: I’m in a bind. I’ve been with this girl for about 3 years now, living together for around half of that, and we’re in our mid-twenties. The only thing unusual about that part is she moved across the country after graduating college to live with me.
So here we are, things are OK, pretty mediocre really. No major fights, but nothing really worthwhile either. You know the saying “shit or get off the pot”? Well, I’ve decided to get off the pot because there’s nothing coming out. Despite nothing bad going on, I can’t see myself marrying her, I can’t see myself having a family with her, I can’t see a future with her. To be perfectly honest, I’m looking forward to some time to myself.
I feel like shit for wasting her time, and I know it’s going to hurt her too. Is there any way to make this easier, or am I going to have to mix metaphors and just rip this band-aid off?
Thanks,
Wasting Time in Denver
A: Dumping someone you’ve simply fallen out of love with is never easy and I am sure you don’t want to hurt her, but I think in this case, honesty really is the best policy.
It sounds like you’ve completely made up your mind that you don’t want to be with her, so try and stick to your guns. I know so many men who’ve told their girlfriends things like “You never know, it might work in the future” and it just isn’t fair on them as it can convey false hope.
I would just tell her that you guys have had some amazing times together and you wouldn’t change any of that for the world, but that you’ve slowly drifted apart and you think it’s time to go your separate ways.
You may leave her completely heartbroken or you may find out she’s been feeling a similar thing, either way it is only fair to tell her the truth so hopefully you can both move onto happiness elsewhere.
Good luck and I hope it all works out OK.
Squee
Xxx
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