by SG’s Team Agony feat. Charley and Koshil
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Charley in Of Yesteryear ]
Q: I’ve been single for about a year now, and in general it didn’t bother me too much. In September I wound up taking two classes at college alongside a girl who was everything I ever could have dreamed of in a woman. I didn’t get to know her very well, and, due to her having her own circle of friends, I was fairly intimidated to approach her as I’m not the most outgoing guy ever.
A friend of mine noticed my plight and informed me that he knew a friend of hers, and that she was in a long term relationship. However, he recently told me that she had apparently been dumped by her boyfriend. Naturally, I want to get in contact with her and tell her how I feel.
The problem comes in that she is no longer in any of my classes for this semester, nor do I have her as a “friend” on any social networks. I’ve been battling with myself as to how much time I should allow her to have space, as well as to how I’m going to contact her. The only way I can seems to be Facebook, and I guess I feel like it’d be creepy to say, “Hey, it’s the guy from your film class last semester, I know we don’t know each other well, but…”. Maybe I’m over-thinking it and should just take the leap. What do you think?
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By SG’s Team Agony feat. Noir and Dorsal
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Noir in Laziest Days]
Q: I’m recently divorced (she rediscovered her Christian side after 10+ years, ergo boom!), and I really want to change the relationships in my life (open things, polyamory, etc). The problem is I began going out again with someone 6 months after the divorce, and we spoke very clearly about this being a fling for both of us (me getting back in the game, she coming off a bad relationship). All well and good. But, we lasted a lot longer than expected, more than a year, and she started trying for the whole white picket-fence package. Job loss and my move to Europe intervened. Now I’ve got a chance to get involved with someone else, but the problem is that someone wants to be serious too. My question is: What do I need to change to attract less conventional women? I refuse to play with someone’s feelings (and life plan) just to get my kicks, but I don’t really understand why the only girls I get close to are the traditional type. Thx in advance for the help!
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Sharyn, Salome, and Rydell
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Sharyn in NYC]
Q: Here’s my problem. Hoping for some advice. I’m 28, been out on my own for a while, and never had much problem talking to women in college, or high school. But now I find myself losing my confidence and having trouble speaking to women in general. It’s only started over the last few years.
I can carry on a conversation for a little while, and then I feel like I panic or have an anxiety attack and have to cut and run. Not sure why this is happening, or what could be causing it, but I’d like to see if anyone has any insight before I decide I need to see a therapist or get some anti-anxiety meds.
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Charley, Elea and Dorsal
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Charley in Of Yesteryear ]
Q. I don’t know if were are over or not but I’m dating this boy who lives in a town 3 hours from mine. We’ve been together now for one year but it’s long distance relationship. Yesterday a girl sent me this message on Facebook asking who I was and what kind of relationship I had with my boyfriend. I told her all that, and she answered saying that they’ve been together for 3 years and that he is also her boyfriend!! He denies it all, but I know he’s lying. I love him, but I guess I’m better off just forgeting him and trying not to have a long distance thing ever again, because you never know what the other person is doing. I want to forgive and forget but I don’t know what to do anymore. Can you advise me?
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by SG’s Team Agony
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Clio in Born Into A Light]
Q. I’m young, 18 years to be exact, and I was hoping that maybe you girls could give me some advice. Here’s the story…Earlier this year, around the middle of February, I started seeing this girl. We’d talked a few times before, and had gotten to know each other pretty well. She started coming over to where I live and we just hung out, played some games, and just bonded.
Then in early March, 19 days before my 18th birthday, we took our relationship to the next level. Yes, I wasn’t legal then – sorry, had to say it. Anyways, we did it one or two more times and she kept coming over to my house until early April. One day she told me that she wanted to try to work things out with her ex and proceeded to leave me behind.
As you probably already figured out, we had feelings towards each other even though the relationship only lasted a little over a month. I was devastated. I tried to talk her out of it, but I couldn’t. I broke down and though three months passed, the feelings I had for her never left. I tried talking to her in July, only to find out that she hates me. So I stopped talking to her and attempted to block her out of my mind, but I couldn’t get her out of my mind either. These days, I’ve been thinking about her more and more, but she hates me and is now married. What would you do? Some advice would help, if you’re up to it. Sorry it was long and boring.
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By SG’s Team Agony
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Squee in Philosophy]
Q. I’m 21-years of age and I’ve been going through a lot. I’ve known a girl for about 8 years and we’ve always been off and on. We stopped talking for 3 years and when we started talking again in April I found out she had a baby. That didn’t bother me. She was no longer with the father of her son but they still kept in contact and her son was still able to see his dad every week. She and I decided to get together and I treated her son as if he was my own. I fell in love with her son – he made me feel so happy when I was around him.
I was so happy to have two people to care about and be there for. After 8 months her grandparents decided to kick her and her sisters out of the house and the only place close to home she could move to was the father of her son’s house. I told her I didn’t want that and asked her to move in with a friend she had that lived near her. She said no, and now she’s living with her ex. She still tells me she loves me and she said she will never lose feelings for me. But I feel like since they’re living together, she’s going to get attached to him and forget about me.
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By SG’s Team Agony
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Salome in Pop Art Clash ]
Q. I’m 26, he’s 50. I really like him, he is respectful, thoughtful, humble, smart, funny, and just an overall wonderful person with good energy. We have been seeing another for about 3 months now. I was in a bad living situation, and I just moved in with him over the weekend. We both have every intention of this being temporary. I know my feelings will get stronger, as they already have in the last month. He occasionally makes jokes about our age difference, and I feel that it bothers him. I’ve never dated anyone even close to his age, nor did I ever see myself doing so, but it doesn’t bother me at all. I guess I’m just wonderingly what the chances are of things working out.
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