by Laurelin
When I first came up with the idea for this column, the name “Life Beyond the Bar Scene” just seemed perfect. The life I lead is so immersed in the service industry that I really can’t see past it right now; everyone I know in Boston I met at a bar. Literally, everyone. Everywhere I turn, it’s bartenders, servers, bouncers, barbacks, nightlife, my life. It wasn’t always this way.
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Rydell and Atlea
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Rydell in Changing Seasons]
Q: I’m 18, going to be 19 in a few months. I have been in relationships were there was a lot of controlling. My ex didn’t want me talking to certain people and especially had a problem when I would talk to my brother. Me and my brother are very close, and my ex felt my brother was going take me away from him. Now that me and him broke up it’s like I don’t have the same confidence and self-esteem I had before I was with him.
I find myself finding guys like him. Why is it hard for me to find a good guy? Sometimes I don’t know if I am straight. Sometimes I think I’m bi. Because of everything I have been through I find myself drinking a lot. Right now, I have a drinking problem but it’s so hard for me to stop. I drink my problems away, or so I think. I feel I’m in a place where no one would know or care where I’m at.
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Smythe, Leandra, and Casca
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Smythe in There Is A Light]
Q: I have a hell of an issue. I am engaged to be married in June of next year. I love my fiancé and he’s my best friend, but I have some internal conflicts that are itching at me.
First, I need more sex! I am afraid that our relationship will end up being a sexless marriage. We get down about once every two weeks or so. It’s boring and always the same. I have tried to spice it up, but he’s not very much into kinky things. I’ve lost my libido and haven’t been able to get in the mood for about two years now. He wants to have sex and he shows it, but I don’t know how to get my libido back. I’ve even talked to Dr. Drew on the radio and that wasn’t much help. I’m young and I shouldn’t have to schedule sex into my life as he suggested.
Second, I do not consider myself straight. I am sexually attracted to women too, but I am not interested in looking for relationships with women. I’ve had urges to go to gay clubs and enjoy myself and meet some females. My fiancé knows this and wants me to do what makes me happy, but to me this is cheating, even when this is approved by him. Is it bad to want to want to drift to the opposite sex for a fun time and then return back home for comfort and love? How do I satisfy him and myself?
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by Brad Warner
That’s right! Here’s your chance to win a date with Brad Warner! You know he’s a dreamboat! You know he’s a famous author! Now here’s your golden opportunity to actually go on a real live date with Brad Warner! Where will you go on your date with Brad? Will he take you to his favorite Thai restaurant? Or perhaps you’ll go on a shopping spree to the comic book store! Who knows?
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Shotgun, Yesenia and Perdita
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Shotgun in In The Fog]
Q: My husband and I have been together for five years and married for one. When we first met the sex was amazing and now it feels like he is just performing maintenance on a damn car. I have brought it to his attention and he hasn’t done anything about it, and lately I’ve noticed my eye wondering. I don’t want to ruin my marriage, but I need the passion back and I feel like he’s forcing me to look elsewhere for it. What should I do? Please help.
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by Brad Warner
My friend John Graves sent me a photo of a billboard that’s been appearing all over Los Angeles. The one he took a picture of was right near The Grove, in one of the highest rent districts in one of the highest rent cities in the whole world. The billboard says: “The Bible Guarantees Judgment Day May 21, 2011, …Cry mightily unto God – Jonah 3:8, Mon-Fri 5:30 – 7PM, 1280 AM Radio FamilyRadio.” Next to these words is a photo of a guy who is either kneeling to pray or in the throes of a painful bout of constipation.
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Morgan and Fabrizia
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Morgan in Green Like Cash]
Q:So my (ex) best friend had spent these past three years trying to get her ex-boyfriend back, and she did. I wasn’t happy about it because I had so much hate towards him because he did nothing but hurt her. Well two months ago my friend left town for a couple of days and her boyfriend started texting me, and for some (stupid) reason I texted him back. We texted all day, talked all night, and I went over to his house every so often just to talk and get to know him better. I started realizing he wasn’t an asshole like I thought.
So time passed and he told me he had started to have feelings for me. I was pretty shocked and I spent the next few days trying to convince him that he didn’t like me like that. But it didn’t work, and I realized I had feelings for him so I told him. We continued talking and I continued going to his house, but we would always end up doing more than just talking. We told no one because we feared that someone would tell his girlfriend (my now ex-friend).
We did a good job of hiding it until about two weeks ago. She was going thru his phone and saw the messages that he had sent me. He called me telling me we needed to stop because he was tired of hurting both of us. I was fuckin’ heartbroken. And it didn’t make me feel any better that she forgave him without asking for an explanation, but she was extremely pissed off at me and told me she was thru with me.
Now I realize I was stupid for ever talking to him. I know I don’t deserve her forgiveness, but I at least want her to know that I’m sorry and that even though she hates me I still care about her. I just wanna know how…Any ideas?
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