by Keith Daniels
“Slut-shaming” is exemplified by the double-standard that says that if a man has many sexual partners, he’s a hot stud, while if a woman does the same, she’s a filthy skank. It’s a heavily entrenched idea in our society, and it’s constantly and often subtly reinforced by both men and women. Even the word I just used, “stud,” demonstrates the problem. How many words can you think of that positively refer to a promiscuous man? How many, without qualifiers, can you think of for a woman? Few can say we’ve never been guilty of propagating this bias, oftentimes born out of jealousy, insecurity, and shame about our own desires.
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Morgan and Fabrizia
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Morgan in Green Like Cash]
Q:So my (ex) best friend had spent these past three years trying to get her ex-boyfriend back, and she did. I wasn’t happy about it because I had so much hate towards him because he did nothing but hurt her. Well two months ago my friend left town for a couple of days and her boyfriend started texting me, and for some (stupid) reason I texted him back. We texted all day, talked all night, and I went over to his house every so often just to talk and get to know him better. I started realizing he wasn’t an asshole like I thought.
So time passed and he told me he had started to have feelings for me. I was pretty shocked and I spent the next few days trying to convince him that he didn’t like me like that. But it didn’t work, and I realized I had feelings for him so I told him. We continued talking and I continued going to his house, but we would always end up doing more than just talking. We told no one because we feared that someone would tell his girlfriend (my now ex-friend).
We did a good job of hiding it until about two weeks ago. She was going thru his phone and saw the messages that he had sent me. He called me telling me we needed to stop because he was tired of hurting both of us. I was fuckin’ heartbroken. And it didn’t make me feel any better that she forgave him without asking for an explanation, but she was extremely pissed off at me and told me she was thru with me.
Now I realize I was stupid for ever talking to him. I know I don’t deserve her forgiveness, but I at least want her to know that I’m sorry and that even though she hates me I still care about her. I just wanna know how…Any ideas?
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by Laurelin
Relationships are funny. I remember thinking when I was dating my ex that two people couldn’t be more perfect for each other. I was so lucky to be with my best friend and I couldn’t imagine facing the world with anyone but him by my side. As time went on I think I realized that maybe that was part of our problem – maybe we were always just meant to be friends. The world started looking a little different to me when I finally pinpointed that what I had always viewed as one of our strengths was actually a fatal weakness.
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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Charley and Koshil
Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.
[Charley in Of Yesteryear ]
Q: I’ve been single for about a year now, and in general it didn’t bother me too much. In September I wound up taking two classes at college alongside a girl who was everything I ever could have dreamed of in a woman. I didn’t get to know her very well, and, due to her having her own circle of friends, I was fairly intimidated to approach her as I’m not the most outgoing guy ever.
A friend of mine noticed my plight and informed me that he knew a friend of hers, and that she was in a long term relationship. However, he recently told me that she had apparently been dumped by her boyfriend. Naturally, I want to get in contact with her and tell her how I feel.
The problem comes in that she is no longer in any of my classes for this semester, nor do I have her as a “friend” on any social networks. I’ve been battling with myself as to how much time I should allow her to have space, as well as to how I’m going to contact her. The only way I can seems to be Facebook, and I guess I feel like it’d be creepy to say, “Hey, it’s the guy from your film class last semester, I know we don’t know each other well, but…”. Maybe I’m over-thinking it and should just take the leap. What do you think?
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by Brad Warner
I just moved into a new apartment in beautiful Akron, Ohio. Don’t be sad. It’s OK. I like it! Anyway, the previous tenant apparently subscribed to Psychology Today magazine and neglected to either cancel or forward her subscription. So I got the latest issue, dated April 2011, and on the cover an article inside is advertised with the rather lurid headline, “Smashing a Taboo: Does Porn Protect Kids?”
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by Brad Warner
“When sex is your job, you really cannot let work suck.”
-Nina Hartley
If you came of age during the video porn boom of the 80s, I dont need to explain who Nina Hartley is
and not just if youre a guy, either. Since she was openly bisexual and not just performing her girl-on-girl scenes for the cash, she had a far greater female following than most porn stars. But for those of you who werent pleasuring yourselves to her work, Nina Hartley was one of the biggest actresses in X-rated film throughout the 1980s, appearing in over 400 porno pictures, beginning with Educating Nina in 1984.
Unlike most porn actresses, Nina didnt spend a couple years in the industry only to vanish off the face of the Earth. She stuck with it and these days puts out a series of How To videos covering subjects as diverse as how to organize the perfect orgy and how to take it up the bum.
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by Justin (a.k.a. SG Member: mydogfarted)
Not even sure where to begin this, having been a member for 8 years now and proud owner of an SG tattoo. Probably best to start with the small changes, then work my way up to the biggest and best change.
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