by SG’s Team Agony feat. Rydell

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q: So my ex girlfriend (who broke up with me) unblocked my number and started contacting me again and started showing up at my house randomly. After having a few weeks to deal with being single I found I didn’t mind it, but now my ex is trying to get back with me and I’m confused as to what to do. Part of me doesn’t want to go down this road again, while another part of me doesn’t mind giving it another shot. Should I just tough it out and tell her I don’t want anything to do with her, or give her another chance? Thank you for your time and input.

A: Well honestly I think everything happens for a reason, whether it be that you get back with your ex or not. But I think the break up happened for a reason and you should examine why she felt she didn’t want to be in the relationship, and if you really want to get back into it or not. Usually second chances in relationships just don’t work out. Granted they can, but you both have to be very invested into making it work the second time around.

You need to sit down and weigh up the pros and cons of getting back into it versus staying out and starting fresh with another person. You also need to figure out if anything has changed that will make it more or less likely to work out a second time around. You may find some surprising answers, which will help to make your choice a bit easier. Just step outside of yourself and try to look at it from someone else’s point of view with no emotional attachment. Yes, that is hard, but it helps when making a better educated choice on your part.



I wish I could offer more guidance on this, but I don’t have enough info on your relationship dynamic, so I can only send you a wide range response, but I think it will get you on the path you need to make the right choice for you.

Rydell

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Artist / SG Member Name: James Curtis a.k.a. jimcurt99

Mission Statement: I just want to share. I started drawing as a sort of therapy; I really would go insane without it. After a while I discovered I could make people happy by drawing them, so that’s when I started doing strictly fan art. In the last year I’ve met some of my very best friends here, and I’m gonna keep drawing until I can’t draw no more.


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This Sunday (September 25th) our special in-studio guests will be Kidneythieves, who’ll be previewing their forthcoming release, The Invisible Plan.

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by Ryker Suicide

This is my favorite fish taco recipe. It’s a little labor intensive, but SO worth it! These are hands down the best fish tacos ever!

Ryker Suicide’s Mahi-Mahi Tacos with Red Cabbage Slaw, Avocado-Tomato Salsa and Pineapple Hot Sauce

Ingredients (makes 16 small tacos):

• 4 Mahi Filets (about 8-10 oz each)
• Salt and fresh ground pepper
• Citrus Vinaigrette (recipe follows)
• Corn Tortillas (or flour, whatever is your favorite)
• Red Cabbage Slaw (recipe follows)
• Avocado-Tomato Salsa (recipe follows)
• Pineapple Hot Sauce (recipe follows) or your favorite fruit infused store bought hot sauce

Preparation:
Preheat grill and brush filets with canola/vegetable oil and season with salt and pepper. Grill about 3-4 minutes each side. Remove from grill and sprinkle with Citrus Vinaigrette. Let rest for 5 minutes to let fish absorb vinaigrette and flake with fork.

Fill each tortilla with mahi, red cabbage slaw, avocado salsa, and drizzle with hot sauce.

Eat and enjoy!!
XOX

Citrus Vinaigrette Ingredients:

• 3/4 cup orange juice
• 1/4 cup lime juice
• 1 cup fresh basil leaves, chopped
• 1 cup fresh cilantro leaves
• 1 teaspoon kosher salt
• 1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
• 1 heaping tablespoon honey
• 1/2 cup canola oil

Preparation:
Combine ingredients in a blender and blend together.

Red Cabbage Slaw Ingredients:

• 1/4 cup rice vinegar
• 1 tablespoon sugar
• 2 tablespoons canola oil
• 1/4 head red cabbage, finely shredded
• 1 large carrot, cut into fine julienne
• 1/4 cup chopped cilantro leaves
• Salt and pepper

Preparation:
Combine all ingredients in a bowl. Season with salt and pepper to taste

Tomato-Avocado Salsa Ingredients:

• 4 plum tomatoes, chopped
• 2 ripe Hass avocados, peeled, pitted and diced
• 1/2 small red onion, finely chopped
• 1 Serrano chili pepper, finely diced
• 1 to 2 limes, juiced
• 2 tablespoons canola oil
• 1 to 2 teaspoons honey
• 3 tablespoons chopped cilantro leaves
• Salt and freshly ground black pepper

Preparation:
Gently combine all ingredients in a bowl. Season with salt and pepper to taste.

Pineapple Hot Sauce Ingredients

• 1 ripe pineapple, preferably Golden pineapple
• 2 tablespoons canola oil
• 1 large Spanish onion, coarsely chopped
• 1 container frozen pineapple puree, thawed
• 2 habanero chili peppers, chopped
• 1 cup rice wine vinegar
• Salt and pepper
• Honey

Preparation:
Grill pineapple and char. In a pan saute onions until translucent then add rice wine, and habanero. Cook for a few minutes, add puree and cook 5-10 minutes, then blend together with rest of ingredients.

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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Rin

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q: My girlfriend just broke up with me recently after four years of dating and almost a year of being engaged. I never thought this would happen but she just up and left for reasons she would never tell me.

With all that behind me, my real question is what to do now? I have tried going out to meet people but with no luck. I have tried online sites but they seem just as bad as going out for meeting new people. I do have a few friends around but just find myself so lonely all the time. I work from home which doesn’t really help. It’s a good job working on computers and I make great money, but it doesn’t help me meet people at all. I just don’t know what to do with myself and find myself fighting loneliness all the time.

A: Regrouping after the breakup of a long-term relationship can be very difficult. The first thing to address is your loneliness. You’ve mentioned you work from home and make a good income. If you don’t already have one, you should purchase a laptop and take as much of your work outside the house as possible. Even if it’s just for an hour or two a day, hanging out in a coffee shop and working will give you a nice dose of people. Choose a pleasant coffee shop, even if it’s out of your way. Maybe it’s in the neighborhood you want to live in, or maybe it just has a great atmosphere.

When you’re lonely, it’s important to reach out to your friends. They care about you and want to see you happy –– try to make two or three friend outings every week. Good friends are the backbone of getting through a breakup.

Because you work at home and are in a low place right now, you should consider adding some physical activity to your weekly routine. Exercise releases all sorts of beneficial chemicals in our brains, like serotonin and endorphins. Cultivating a feeling of wellbeing will definitely help with your loneliness and put you in a good place for when you do meet someone new. Joining a gym would be the easiest step, but you could also try yoga, team sports, or just go running in your own neighborhood. Lifting weights at home would also do the trick, though it doesn’t have the added potential social benefits.

Since you just got out of a relationship, give yourself some time to recuperate before you stress about meeting someone new. Make new goals — find things you can achieve on your own. Spend time figuring out what makes you happy, then do it! In a long-term relationship we can lose ourselves and it can be really empowering, when single, to find out what we want to do and just do it without worrying about the repercussions.

Maybe she was against you getting tattoos; maybe she didn’t like it when you went out with your friends and came home late; maybe she hated it when you played your favorite album on repeat for three hours straight. Now is your time to do whatever the fuck you want without needing the approval of another person. Discover the good parts of being single. It sounds contradictory, but it’s true! Sometimes being single is fun.

Hope those suggestions are helpful to you!

Rin

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