by SG’s Team Agony feat. Yulia

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q: Last summer my wife and I split up simply because she felt lonely, which is my fault completely. We did end up getting back together, but my problem is sex, which was once great has died away. She never feels like having it any more. She doesn’t even want oral sex either. Sex is not the most important thing to me, but I feel it is definitely hurting the relationship. I have tried everything in and out of the book, but have come up empty and am having thoughts about exploring my options. Is there anything I can do to restart my sex life back with my wife? I miss the fun we had.

A: Kudos to you for recognizing that your past behavior may have caused or contributed to your current situation. It’s also very brave of you both to give your relationship a second chance. This shows you each recognized a strong connection and believe it’s worth saving.

Since you say you’re not having much sex anymore, I’m going to assume you had sex more regularly pre-breakup. Your wife may be concerned that renewing your sex life together will begin a slippery slope back down to the loneliness she felt before your time apart. I don’t know how long you two have been back together, but even if it’s been months, you may still be rebuilding trust. Because sex is the most intimate act, it can be easy to assume that just because you’re sleeping with someone you know them well and are spending quality time together. And you are, but it’s often not enough. I have friends I’ve never kissed that I know more deeply than people I have slept with. It’s likely that this is the level of connection that your wife wants, and she may be trying hard to build a strong foundation first before she will let loose.

You need to make your wife feel special and special to YOU, like you want her and not just sex, period. But don’t just treat her to the traditional stuff (flowers, and restaurants), try branching out and giving her quality time where you can enjoy each other’s company as well as each other’s bodies.

Most of all, be patient. Your wife wouldn’t have gotten back together with you if she didn’t hope to rekindle the old fire. She might just be trying a different method this time to see if the bond will be stronger.

Best of luck.

Yulia

Got Problems? Let SuicideGirls’ team of Agony Aunts provide solutions. Email questions to: gotproblems@suicidegirls.com

by Sex Toy Expert Moxi Suicide

If you don’t know who Phil Varone is, you’re probably not as into hair metal as I am. Phil was/is the drummer for all kinds of bands like Saigon Kick, Skid Row and Vince Neil’s solo act – and he also happens to make sex toys.

Let me just say that I run in the same social circle as his girlfriend and before I even started my Powers Tools blog I heard about Phil coming out with his own line of erotic playthings and my curiosity was piqued, so I begged Phil’s girl to send me one of his toys.

Time passed, my Power Tools column got into gear, and I was becoming impatient to test out Phil’s wares. Eventually he put me in touch with manufacturer Cal Exotics, who were kind enough to ship almost the complete line of Phil Varone toys to me.

Opening a box of sex toys is like peeking in my stocking at Christmas; it’s so exciting that I often have no idea where to begin. I rummaged around and saw the “Rock Hard Nipple Clamps.” I have always wanted to try nipple clamps, but must admit that I never have. I like a lot of pressure on my nipples and figured that now was as good of a time as any to try them out.

I put Cheap Trick’s album In Color on and gingerly applied the clamps to my nipples. Woah, ow! I took them off and examined them. I noticed that they were adjustable and that I could set the pressure at different levels. I re-adjusted and applied them to my nipples once again. Ah, I had found the perfect “someone is biting on your nipples” pressure.

At this point, I was getting a little turned on and realized that the clamps should be used in conjunction with another toy, like one of my favorites, the Nubby Bullet. I reached for my bullet and admired the silvery chain of the clamps against my chest as I leaned over. The clamps have a continuous sexy sting and unlike your partner’s mouth, these nipple clamps don’t get tired. It was really nice to have a bit of extra naughty sensation during my regular playtime. And I have to say, as a first time nipple clamp user, I’m thoroughly impressed.

xx
Moxi

You can get a backstage pass to Phil Varone’s Sex, Toys, and Rock & Roll collection here.

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by Nahp

A column which highlights Suicide Girls and their fave groups.

This week Yesenia tells us why she gets the warm and fuzzies with Cute Overload.

Members: 1,200 / Comments: 7,459

WHY DO YOU LOVE IT?: I can always count on the posts in this group to make my day better. It is impossible for me not to smile, giggle, and have my heart melt when I browse the threads in Cute Overload. It is packed with cute photos and videos of animals, kids, and other cute things. There is a video someone posted of a blind kitten playing with its first toy, a jingly ball, and it nearly made me tear because it was so cute! There is a sticky thread dedicated to posting photos of your own pets, and another for posting baby pictures of yourself. Many members start their own threads to discuss a particular cute video they found online.

DISCUSSION TIP: Post anything cute! It can be something you saw online, or something you took a photo/video of yourself. The cuter the better!!

MOST HEATED DISCUSSION THREAD:
I don’t think there are any heated threads. I would be surprised if I found one.

BEST RANDOM QUOTE: Pretty much anything a child says, and there are plenty of those videos in the group.

WHO’S WELCOME TO JOIN?: Anyone is welcome to join, and once you do, The cutest thing I saw today… is always a good place to start.

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by Laurelin

I remember that I used to go to his bar after we had broken up. I had always gone there, why should I change anything just because my life as I knew it was over? Besides, I was fine. I would do my hair differently, a different style, parted to another side. And I’d wear a little black dress because I was on my way to a fancy event that once he would have also been invited to. I was okay, and he would see that.

I wasn’t okay, I was drunk. Lines blurred and people stared, and when I fell backwards off my barstool he came running to help me up. I screamed that I didn’t need his help anymore, that I was fine. Our friends shook their heads and saw me home, and I knew that I was far from fine. That night would replay a couple of times a week; a different dress, the same sad looks. And always I would cry when I thought no one was looking, even though everyone was. He must have been horrified.

Three years later, I watch him walk drunk into my bar regularly. He has his head held high, but I can always tell that something is wrong.

After the scene unfolded for the first time, I leant over to one of our friends and said, “This is what it was like all those years ago when I used to go into his bar, isn’t it?” Our friend nodded his head, and I felt impossibly sad.

I would rather have nights of my own endless heartbreak than know I’m causing someone else to ache like that. I don’t know what’s happening, and I am powerless to stop any of it. I have my own problems and having front row seats to his makes me feel guilty for being annoyed, but I am.

“I just miss you,” he says, reaching for me. I turn away, just out of his reach and I want to cry, but I don’t. Not until I was telling someone else the story later did my eyes fill with tears. “You’re happy now,” he had slurred and I wanted so badly to shake him and tell him that I was anything but happy; I was still always being let down, the only constant in my life was our sad city bar scene. But he didn’t need to know that. If he thought I was happy and that made him sad, it wasn’t my place to let him know that I really did want to be rescued – just not by him anymore.

It’s raining outside today, and I can’t bring myself to get out of bed. I don’t feel like drinking, I don’t feel like talking, texting, writing, eating. I feel sad, alone, heartbroken. I have to be at the bar in one hour. As shitty as I feel I know, I’ll get up, I’ll add some color to my pale cheeks and I’ll fake a smile, and while some people will know, others won’t. I’ll be okay. Maybe he’ll call and maybe he won’t, and no matter which “he” it is, I shouldn’t answer the phone, because nothing is right.

I have to be at the bar in one hour, and the mere thought of lifting my face off this pillow is enough to make me turn to ashes.

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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Leandra

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q. Basically my boyfriend never wants to have sex and it confuses me. I wear sexy outfits, corsets, thongs, nothing but a skirt, fish nets stockings, but nothing works. I rub on him, even give him head, but he still doesn’t want to have sex with me. I don’t know what to do!!! Any tricks you could teach me?

A: Firstly, you need to know it’s NOT you. Wearing sexy outfits, lingerie etc., will only do so much. I am sure you look amazing!

It sounds like you have a real problem in the relationship here, I don’t think trying any tricks will help. How long has he been this way? Has he always been less sexual than you? Sometimes guys just are not sexual, despite the stereotype.

The first thing I think you should do is confront your boyfriend on this issue, but be kind and be gentle, this is a sensitive subject. I know this is frustrating and can do serious damage to your confidence and self esteem, but please try not to take it personally and please don’t think you’re not hot enough and can’t “do it” for him.

He should be willing to go to a doctor and have a few tests done, he may have a medical problem. He may have low testosterone, (you might want to Google that and see if he has other symptoms). He may have erectile dysfunction, which he can get pills for (Viagra and others). There may be a lack of blood flow to his penis, etc. It’s important to rule any physical factors out for his health.

Once you have ruled out anything physical, author possible causes could be emotional or mental. Has there been a change in the relationship or a change in his life? Could he be stressed, tired or overworked? Are you guys okay besides this sex problem? It may help him to talk to a therapist. You guys could even consider going to couples counseling together.

Basically, this doesn’t usually happen for no reason. Sure, some men and woman are just not very sexual, but there is usually a reason beyond that, especially if it hasn’t always been this way. You need to work together to get to the bottom of it, and you need to be supportive as I’m sure this is going to be a little embarrassing for him.

If he is not willing to seek any kind of help, you need to decide if you will be happy spending the rest of your life in a sexless relationship. Personally, I wouldn’t be so hurt that my boyfriend wasn’t having sex with me, I would be much more hurt if he wasn’t willing to try and do something about it.

Good luck!!!

Leandra
xXx

Got Problems? Let SuicideGirls’ team of Agony Aunts provide solutions. Email questions to: gotproblems@suicidegirls.com

by Nahp

A column which highlights Suicide Girls and their fave groups.

This week Noel gives us the skinny on SG’s Strip Club group, a venue to rate, review, discuss and inquire about strip clubs around the world, and discuss matters of etiquette for those who frequent them.


Members: 2,067 / Comments: 11,088

WHY DO YOU LOVE IT?: Because when I first started dancing I did have my doubts, and fears. Once I joined the Strip Clubs group I found so much support and comfort in the other SGs and members. I am now very happy working as an exotic dancer/model. I have met some incredible people, and life long friends by conquering my insecurities which I strongly believe I would not have done without SG.com, and the Strip Clubs group.

DISCUSSION TIP: I’m not sure if I have any discussion tips. This group is very liberal, and accepting. If you feel the need to start a thread, or add on to a pre-existing one, my advice would be to jump right on in!

MOST HEATED DISCUSSION THREAD:
Lap Dances DOs and DON’Ts.

BEST RANDOM QUOTE: “Apparently doing the running-man on stage also works.” – Vivid Suicide

WHO’S WELCOME TO JOIN?: Everyone.

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by Shotgun

We asked 10 Suicide Girls if they could curl their tongue, and filmed their reaction. While Annasthesia can do multiple tricks with her tongue, Tovi has given up trying. It’s okay though, she has plenty of other talents, like baking. Watch them, along with Phecda, Kentessa, Oakley, Smayx, Vellin, Yesnesnia, Madison, and the lovely Tita as they stick their tongues out and show off their skills.