by SG’s Team Agony feat. Salome

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q:I have been married for almost three years, and I do love my wife very much. I have multiple fantasies where I’m having threesomes or four-ways with groups of men and women or both. I have tried numerous times to explain this to my wife but she wants NO part of it. 
I want more not only for myself sexually but more for our relationship. 
How can I get my point across to her? Should I leave her and explore my options on my own? Or should I just forget about these fantasies?
Sexually Confused in the South

A:Dear Sexually Confused in the South,

You say you love your wife very much and want more for your relationship, but I am skeptical. You are asking for advice on how to press your wife into something that, right now, she has made it clear she does not want to do.

I hear a lot about you and what you want in your question, but nothing about what your wife wants. If you are approaching this as “Honey, this is what I want, give me permission and let me drag you along,” then of course she’s going to be resistant. Sex is something you share with your partner and anything new you try should be something you explore together as equals.

Try initiating a conversation with her about what SHE wants. Don’t use it as a jumping off point to try talking her into your desires again; just ask questions and then listen to the answers. Ask her what she likes in your sex life now, and what she’d like more of, or less of. Ask her if there’s anything she’d ever wanted to try or wondered about doing, but hasn’t brought up to you. If you do this respectfully and honestly, she may surprise you. You may get some of the variety you need in your sex life, she gets to explore her own fantasies, and hopefully you will make her feel safe and secure in the idea of exploring new sexual territory with you.

However, this doesn’t mean you should jump right to “we did what you wanted, now I get an orgy.” Introducing additional partners into a relationship can be an incredible experience, but it can be extremely complicated to pull off. The relationship dynamics have to be right, there has to be total trust, honest and constant communication, pre-established ground rules, and a way for either partner to end the encounter or situation quickly and without fear of judgment or bad feelings. Group sex, swinging, polyamory, open relationships, or any other shade of non-monogamy are not for everyone. It would be unfair of you to demand this of your wife if it is truly not for her, or if she might be up for it but you are unwilling to put the effort into building a strong, loving and trusting relationship that will not be damaged by opening it up.

Before you can think about taking a step as huge as having sex with other people, you need to make sure your relationship is as strong as you can make it – and even then non-monogamy may not be the right choice for the two of you. Only at that point is your choice actually between subsuming your fantasies out of love for your wife or pursuing your fantasies in a life without her.

Salome

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by Jeckyl Suicide

Ingredients
2 cups plain flower

2 tsp baking powder

5 ml salt

2 eggs

1 cup milk

1 cup castor sugar

2 tbs instant Cuppacino

100g butter (room temperature)

cupcake cups

Icing:

125 ml fresh cream

1 cup icing sugar

1 tbs instant coffee powder

mini chocolate balls

Method:


Preheat your oven to 180 degrees (celsius). In a bowl, sift together all of your dry ingredients. In a separate bowl, cream together your butter and sugar before slowly adding the eggs.
Add this mixture to the dry ingredients. Combine thoroughly before spooning into the cupcake cups, places in a muffin tray to hold them in place.
 Bake for approximately 30 minutes or until an inserted knife comes out clean.
 Place onto a rack and allow to cool.

And now for the icing; In a bowl, whip the cream until it’s stiff before adding the combined sifted icing sugar and instant coffee powder. Once the cupcakes have cooled, smother them in the coffee cream and then sprinkle with mini chocolate balls to garnish.


Viola!

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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Dexter

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q: I was dating this girl that I had met at a friend’s event. We started dating/seeing each other for about 2-3 months, against my friend’s wishes (we share the same mutual friend). I traveled to her, about a hour away, and slept over her place and vise versa. We really only saw each other from Saturday night into Sunday afternoon because she works 6 days a week. I know I didn’t do well with texting her, I only really texted her Thursday, Friday, and Saturday to plan out if we were going to hang out and what we should do.

I also asked her why she didn’t text me during the times that I didn’t text her and why she assumed what she assumed and just ended everything. I just hate being lied to and eventually she told me she was seeing another guy. But I don’t understand why she acted like a child and ignored me, lied, and assumed all this about me and our relationship. I liked the girl and want to try to be friends but I just can’t get over how she went about things. I guess I would like your opinion on this whole situation, the girl, and what maybe I should do…

A: First of all, let’s start with this; you mentioned that dating this girl was done against your mutual friend’s wishes. Maybe that friend was trying to save you a whole lot of grief! This girl sounds shady, plain and simple. I can guarantee that she didn’t have much of a problem with the weekend hang out/booty call with minimal strings. She obviously enjoyed it since it went on for a few months.

It seems likely to me that she met someone new, someone local probably. Having someone new is exciting, and it’s pretty damn convenient if that someone new lives only ten minutes away. This gave her an excuse to start using the “lack” of text messages and the distance as an easy way out. Using excuses is much easier than admitting you fucked up. It’s also much easier than telling the truth.

It’s not because she didn’t think YOU could handle it; it’s because SHE couldn’t handle it. She couldn’t handle telling the truth, or being the bad guy in the relationship, so she made up excuses.

If you can accept that she’s a shady kinda girl, then it should make it easy to be just friends with her with no romantic interest. But do you really want shady friends in your circle?

Best Wishes! 


Dexter
xoxo

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by Tita Suicide

The SuicideGirls “Destroyed” Vancouver this past Friday, when they took over the Astoria Pub for their “SuicideGirls Take VanCity” party.

“Tonite was f*cking awesome!” – @DoctorFeelgreat

Cruella, Harajuku, Georjah, Pirate, Meshell, Peatrie, and Caspiann, joined hosts Tita and Rydell, as they partied with fans, members, and friends from all over the Pacific Northwest. Together they previewed the latest SuicideGirls movie UK Holiday, as well as earlier release SuicideGirls Guide To Living. It was the perfect backdrop to an event that was filled with some major babes in the flesh. With their killer tattoos, sexy curves, and kick ass attitudes, the girls in attendance drew more than a few excited gasps, and double takes, as they circulated the East Vancouver landmark bar.

“SuicideGirls knocked it outta the park” – @Ave_Dogg

The Jagerettes were on hand to share swag and samples of Jagermeister, while Teenage Lifestyle DJs Mo Diddley and Death Trip treated the crowd to sick beats. Event photographer Joel Dufresne caught all the action on his camera, including giveaways from Dead Reckoning Military Surplus, Face Atelier, and SuicideGirls. Afterwards, several party goers hopped on stage and sent the night off in proper SG style, with a massive photo op that captured the night’s playful energy.

“I think #SGTAKESVANCITY needs to happen every month!!” – @therealjoshcat

Connecting with our community live and in person is always amazing. In the days leading up to the event, an entire team of pros including Brandon Hart (@brandonhart29), Faye Smith (@FayeSmithMAKEUP), Almighty Creative (@ALMIGHTYCRTV), and a bevy of babes from SG, came together to produce the biggest Vancouver SuicideGirls event of 2012. Judging by how much everyone loved it, you better believe the BC SG’s will be back for more sexy fun in 2013!!

by Nahp

A column which highlights Suicide Girls and their fave groups.

This week Spliff explains why she stands behind Ass Appreciation.

Members: 8,020 / Comments: 82,077

WHY DO YOU LOVE IT?: Aside from the fact that I love booty – all kinds of booty – I really love this group for the members and the owner Bepps. It’s a community within the site made for all us ass lovers to unite. I also really enjoy that there are threads made for some girls to just post their glorious bums. I personally have a thread with 72 pages of only mine.

DISCUSSION TIP: In this group you can discuss openly just about anything ass related you want. A lot of threads will just make you simply want to say “DAMN!”

MOST HEATED DISCUSSION THREAD: The Post Your Own Ass thread is by far the most popular. I love this thread because there’s daily new cute booty pictures of not just SG’s and hopefuls, but also members.

BEST RANDOM QUOTE: “What a delightful derrière!” – I love this because I always here ass, booty, butt, bum. But derriere makes it sounds sexier. Also, “Your ass has to be illegal in at least 48 states!”

WHO’S WELCOME TO JOIN?: Anyone who loves a good behind, weather it be small ones, fat ones, asses in panties, or asses and heels.

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by Laurelin

I sit here in bed, the television muted, my iTunes silenced. I sit here in bed with my cell phone on vibrate; my hands ready to receive at any moment. All night, my hands, waiting. Waiting for him to say something, anything, but he doesn’t. I almost welcome that familiar twinge, that feeling that leaves me so full of emptiness. I remember I heard once that you’re never more alive than when your heart is breaking. Mine is already broken, and apparently I like nothing more than to make the same mistakes twice.

I almost don’t even know who “he” is. At this point there are so many people who could fill that void that I feel stupid, because while there are so many, there are in fact, so few.

My ex, who I haven’t spoken to in months, says he’s on his way to the bar. I miss him, but I don’t really, and when he doesn’t show tonight I feel better for not having put the picture he painted me for my birthday back on the wall. I keep thinking, “One day I can hang it,” but it’s been one year and it’s still stuffed in the back of my closet next to the framed photo of the ex that used to hit me and the clothing I wore when I would wrestle bachelors for money at the strip club in hot oil and whipped cream. I don’t know why I even think I can stand to look at it, and for one fleeting moment it’s clear as day and I don’t know why I haven’t burned it.

I find myself sitting here, wishing for anything. The last guy I liked had my friends in absolute giggles; comparing the new guy to the old one, leaving me a little bewildered because this new one was honest and sweet… at least in the beginning. So he wasn’t as muscular or tall. And then, just like all the rest, he was suddenly gone, and I was left with nothing. In the beginning we had laughed over how cold we both seemed (we weren’t really). In the beginning I had thought, “He’s not cold at all,” but in the end I thought, “He was right,” though I never cried.

I never cried. There are some guys who make you think; some who make who question your very essence. There are some guys who make you feel like nothing will ever be the same. The ones who break you, day after day, month after month, year after year. There are those guys that no matter how many times you tell yourself they’re going to stay buried they always seem to surface just when you’re at your most vulnerable. There are the guys that never call; and those are the ones who are made for nothing more than heart breaking and other lies.

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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Jaeci

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q: I have fallen in love with my best guy friend. When it started, I didn’t even realize it since I was with my ex-boyfriend. I broke up with the ex five months ago after being with him for over two years because he made me feel bad about myself and guilty for all the things that went wrong in our relationship. He didn’t even take care of me when I started to get drunk on my 21st birthday! Instead, my best friend did, while the ex got drunk and more upset that he didn’t step up. It only took me the weekend to get over him because I fell out of love with him six months before.

Thank you for your time. I love you girls!

A: The short answer: You are going to bring your own sleeping bag or blankets and you are not going to insist on spooning him. It shouldn’t matter that the friends you are going with are a couple –– there are two of you, platonic or romantic, so no one is a third wheel. You’ll have a great time. If something happens, so be it. If not –– c’est la vie.

The long answer: When he apologized for trying to be with you then cutting it short for friendship’s sake, did he say he was sorry because he didn’t want to be with you in the first place/led you on, or did he say he was sorry because he was too concerned about the preservation of your friendship to stay with you? Did he give you any indication of his motivation?

Sometimes, best friends precisely the people you can’t date, even if they seem like exactly who you wish you could. One of my best gals tried dating her bff. They had a magical connection at first because of how intense their relationship had always been, how close they feel, how much they have been through, how he knows her inside and out. The sex was apparently awesome. But, despite everything, she too was friend-zoned. They ultimately parted ways, albeit after much more of a lengthy and heart-wrenching game.

Reality bites, eh.

When someone says, “You’re in my friend zone” for them it generally means, uh, “You’re in my friend zone.” It usually doesn’t mean, “I’m secretly in love with you –– no, really!” Strong feelings of any kind are easy to get lost in. Everything seems more intense when you love someone –– even if you aren’t in love with them. You can definitely mistake platonic love and a surprising, but probably fleeting, physical attraction for “OH MY GOD WEDDING BELLLLSSSS!” Maybe he felt a little spark, you showed you wanted him, it seemed like a great idea until it was totally not a great idea. Also, not everyone associates sex with love and the physical connection you may have had in that month you were together does not necessarily have anything to do with romantic affection.

Please be careful not to project your feelings onto him. It’s easy to see only what you want to see. To me, it sounds a lot like he cares, and not so much like he wants to be with you. Don’t get crushed by deciding you ought to be together when it isn’t what both people want.

If there’s no click this weekend – and don’t spend the whole camping trip waiting for it, wanting it, expecting it, or asking for it – set your sights elsewhere and put him back in the friend zone he has for so long inhabited. Don’t set yourself up for heartbreak. There are plenty of people out there who would love you to be in their girlfriend zone and he can, hopefully, go back to being the best buddy that he was before.

Xx

Auntie Jaeci

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