by Bradley Suicide

The coast is clear, the view is distorted.

I have found myself newly single and have thus been thrown head first into the sad and sorry existence that is the dating scene. I am the first to admit that I have no patience for this type ordeal (and yes, it is an ordeal at times). I am probably every dude’s nightmare when it comes to being approachable, and then on top of that, it takes a very certain person to hold my attention for more than a minute or two. That certain type of person, unfortunately, is generally what our society refers to as a “douche bag.’ Yes, I have a firm belief that my “picker” if you will, is pretty much busted.

Through the trials and tribulations that I have been through since my single life has started up again, I have learned a few things. Coping with being alone is no easy task, and coming out of the security a three year relationship makes singledom all the more of a shock. It can also, at times, be an absolute blast, but easy and fun are not necessarily synonymous.

When I first became the newly single me, I felt pretty lost and found myself starting to see someone right off the bat. Not seriously, but in my naïve little heart I thought that it could lead to something long term. I was definitely mistaken. He was one of those guys that we have all had a run in with on some level. Extremely charismatic, good looking, acted like he wanted to give me everything that I wanted, blah, blah, blah. In the end we went out a few times, hooked up for a while, and then, well, let’s just say my rose-tinted spectacles fell off with a thud. I was not heartbroken by any means (ego bruised yes, heartbroken, no), but I did get hit with a major dose of reality. This gentleman and I ultimately became very close friends. We still have our fun from time to time, but it’s on my terms now and all of the cards are on the table.

When I look at my single escapades, and yes, there have been many of over the past few months, I just shake my head at my own antics and vow that I will learn and grow from them. This, of course, has yet to happen. Can you really blame me? You take a girl like me and throw me into the singles scene, and shit is going to go down. Especially with my affinity for tattooed boys with an “I don’t give a fuck attitude.”

I am not interested in settling down, at least not with anyone who is emotionally available and I don’t like to sleep alone. This is a dangerous combination. So what is a girl to do? Thus far I have been enjoying the ride. Never turning down a drink and breaking hearts along the way. It’s go time in Bradleyville. We will see where this all takes me.

I have no clue what the next few months will bring. Hell, I don’t know what the next few minutes will. But I do know one thing, I am having fun. Please stay tuned for further developments. I am sure that things are going to get interesting.

Until next time.

Bradley
xoxo

by Blogbot

Our friends over at Slake marked the publication of the fourth Dirt-themed issue of their Los Angeles-centric literary book/magazine hybrid with an evening of dance, music, art, free beer, and pie – served by “Pie Girls” Moxi and Vivid Suicide. The event was held on Friday May 4 at Atwater Crossing, a multi-purpose eat, drink, performance, gallery, and work space in Hipsterville, LA.

Slake founders Joe Donnelly and Laurie Ochoa were joined by former Guided By Voices member James Greer (who hosted a station where attendees could make original album art for his new Detective project), and many of the local writers and artists who had contributed to the new issue. SG’s Red, White & Femme post-feminist sex & sensuality columnist Darrah de jour was also in attendance, as was OG LA occupier Gia Trimble (who was a guest on SG Radio’s OccupyLA-themed show this past Sunday) and photographer Ted Soqui (who took the iconic “Protester” image which was used by Time Magazine for the cover of their “Person of The Year” issue).

With two Suicide Girls girls on hand to celebrate the release of Slake’s Dirt, things naturally got a little naughty (see NSFW pic). The evening came to a climax with one lucky lady getting cream pie in her face – though we’re not exactly sure why 😉

*UPDATE*

If you’d like to get down and Dirt-y with the folks from Slake, they’re having another soirée later this week at the rather civilized Stories Books & Cafe in Echo Park (which boasts a great book selection and to-die-for Mac & Cheese!). In keeping with the new issue theme, the event will feature scribes Jack Lander, Antonia Crane, Lucy Engelman, Dave White, Christopher Byars, and Vanessa Carlisle reading sordid stories in the store’s back patio – the night promising to be as debauched as it is divine.

Where: Stories Books & Cafe, 1716 W. Sunset Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 90026.
When: Thursday, May 10 at 7:30 PM
Info: slake.la/events/slake-stories-books

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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Tita

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q: I have been with my girlfriend (girl-girl couple) for almost nine months now. Sadly, she had to move so currently we are long distance. My problem is, I am feeling unappreciated. Our relationship seems to be me giving and barely getting anything in return. Recently, I sent her a memory card full of saucy teases and the only thing she has to say is, “The videos are too short.” You see my problem?

I feel I am coming to the end of my patience. She has always been a taker and I am naturally a giver. How do I talk to her about how unsatisfied and unappreciated I feel without seeming mad, or like a total a-hole?

A: First up, I would like to point out that telling someone you are unsatisfied, or feeling under appreciated does not immediately make you an “a-hole.” Communication is an important part of any relationship, and should be one of the strongest bonds that you share.

Asking for what we want and need, and being “demanding” are not the same thing! Just as being “helpful or caring” and “overly accommodating” are not mutually exclusive.

Truthfully, distance seems to be the least of your relationship problems. Or perhaps it has just highlighted issues that were already there.

Have you asked yourself: What were things like before we separated? Was I happier then? Was my partner more engaged, or giving? (According to your email, she has “always been a taker” – so perhaps not.)

And following those questions, why not continue with: What in this relationship is worth sticking around for? You list your girlfriend’s inequities, but surely there must be some good qualities, or you wouldn’t be sticking it out. Or… would you?!?

Often times we repeat a pattern of behavior because we don’t know any different. In this case, it seems the distance should have been as good a reason as any to cut the cord, yet you chose to remain attached. Why is that?

I think you need to take a good look at what is in this for you – without pausing to tell yourself that that is selfish or mean. If you asked yourself that very question right now, gun to your head –what would you come up with?

Sure, coming out to your Dad may be positive for you in the long run, but what made you take such a leap at the request of your girlfriend, and not for yourself? In my opinion, in order to find your place in this relationship, you must first find your own voice. Figure out what you want. Itemize your needs. Visualize where you want your relationship (and life) to go. And then, take stock and see if your current relationship is a good fit.

From where I’m sitting, it doesn’t look like it.

No one’s saying it will be easy, but I hope when the time comes you find the strength to take what may be the harder of two roads.

Good luck!

*Besos*

Tita

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by Blogbot

We last had the folks from OccupyLA in the SG Radio studio on October 6th, 2011. Since then, a lot has happened for them – and the Occupy movement as a whole.

Back then, OccupyLA’s occupation of the grounds outside City Hall was barely a week old, and no one had much idea of what the future might hold. Certainly few outsiders would have predicted they’d be alive and kicking seven months on.

Though they lost their permanent encampment in early December, 2011, after a brutal police raid, you can’t evict an idea – and OccupyLA had a big one – to mark International Workers’ Day with a massive day of action.

The resolution, which was first tabled by members of OccupyLA in a General Assembly (GA) held in November 2011, was taken up by other occupations nationwide, and on May 1st thousands of people in well over 100 cities participated in the May Day General Strike.

In Los Angels, the day was marked with marches from the 4 Winds in the North, South, East, and West corners of the sprawling metropolis, which converged with other immigrant/workers rights protests in Downtown LA. A special OccupyLA May Day GA was then held in the evening in Pershing Square, where it all began.

By sundown, Pershing Square was packed, with many new and perspective occupiers experiencing a GA for the first time. The overwhelming sense of camaraderie emitted by the large crowd was palpable, as strangers were quickly united by a common goal and the process of radical and truly representative democracy.

The momentum of the movement (that most in the mainstream seriously underestimate) continues as the focus shifts to Chicago, with large gatherings and protests planned in honor of the People’s Summit, NATO, and the (hastily relocated) G8.

On Sunday, as OccupyLA encamps in the SuicideGirls Radio studio, we’ll be reflecting on May Day, celebrating the many triumphs of the movement, and talking about its future hopes, dreams, and grounded, pragmatic and attainable goals.

For more on OccupyLA visit their website, Facebook and Twitter.

We’ll also be hearing from our good friend George from Occupy affinity group 99% Solidarity. He’ll be calling in from NYC to give us the skinny on the FREE Chicago bus trips the group is organizing to coincide with the various planned protests there later this month. For more details visit: 99solidarity.com/chicago/

Tune in to SuicideGirls Radio live on Sunday May 6 from 10 PM til Midnight PST at: suicidegirlsradio.indie1031.com/
(hit the top right “listen Live” button)

For updates on all things SG Radio-related, “like” us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter.

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by Blogbot

SuicideGirls have just unleashed a super cute new iPad app for those that like watching “birds” of the non-feathered kind. This field guide is intended to help “ornithological” enthusiasts correctly identify Suicidium Femella, whose markings and adornments tend to make them stand out from the crowd.

“The app is based on a vintage ‘bird’ watching field guide,” SG founder Missy explains. “It features beautiful illustrations of some of the Suicide Girls by the amazing Cameron Stewart, who also did the art for the SuicideGirls Comic. All the illustrations are available as prints fulfilled by Eyes on Walls. The encyclopedic text, which helps you identify the lovelies in the field, was created by the talented Caitlin Kiernan.”

SG’s featured include Radeo, Glitch, and über-geek Bob, who’s a huge fan of the new app. “It combines everything SG is about; showcasing wit, creativity, and community,” says Bob. “You can tell a lot of people put a lot of effort into making it from the design of the app, Cameron Stewart’s amazing art, down to the cute copy describing each girl. And it’s free so everyone can enjoy it and join in the SG fun!”

Getting down to the technical nitty gritty, which is what Bob’s really goot at, she explains: “Aside from the stylized catalog of wallpaper downloads, it’s the little things in the UI that make it really shine. The app’s dynamic controls allow the user to choose between a contents search interface or page flip one that works just like the real field guides it was modeled after. There’s so much to touch, click, scroll, and read that gives the app – and the girls it features – character and life. PLUS, the integration of a shopping cart brings the possibility of bringing that downloadable wallpaper to your actual wall in a quality, frame-able format. So often you see a free app review that starts with the words ‘just a’ – but this app isn’t ‘just’ anything, it’s just EVERYTHING.”

You can download SuicideGirls’ FREE Field Guide via iTunes.

by Tita Suicide

Vancouver experienced it’s first Fan Expo April 21st thru 22nd, giving local comic book fans, gamers, pop culture enthusiasts, and SuicideGirls the chance to experience a Comic Con first hand. In the past year, a whole new crop of VanCity SuicideGirls went pink, and they were stoked to join the other BCSG’s at our booth over the weekend.

It was such fun to see the look on everyone’s faces when R2D2 and Darth Vader arrived! The sight of Aadie, Alkaline, Ceres, Cruella, Femme, Harajuku, Peatrie, Rydell, and Yulia posing with their Star Wars heroes caused quite a stir.

The ensuing pictures illustrate the excitement, cosplay, fun, and silliness that went on at the Vancouver Convention Centre, inside the SuicideGirls booth, and at the #SGTAKESVANCITY after party.

Thanks to everyone who stopped by to share in the fun!! Be sure to catch the SuicideGirls at the Philadelphia Comic Con May 31st, to June 3, 2012.

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by SG’s Team Agony feat. Aadie

Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

Q: My boyfriend of two and a half years and I have been through hell and back on the most emotional roller-coaster imaginable. He’s taken me for granted and broken my heart a couple times in the past, but after this most recent break up he came back and really seems to have his stuff together. Everything has been great and he’s done an awesome job at proving to me he has turned over a new leaf. The issue I am having is little to no sex drive toward him. I love being around him, he’s my best friend, I don’t mind a little affection, but when it comes to sex I have zero motivation or interest. I truly can see myself marrying him and I really want this to work out. Did he break my heart so bad that he broke my vagina too?

Help me!

A: Well, well, well, aren’t we in a pickle. I believe that it is very important in any relationship to be honest with A: YOURSELF and B: YOUR PARTNER!!!

Without honestly you seriously have zip. Could it be possible that now your boyfriend is really just that, a boy that is your friend? I do doubt your vagina is busted, lol, but it is very understandable that maybe your sexual drive towards this individual has subsided indefinitely.

A sex drive is, as you know, an emotional thing. If your boyfriend has broken your heart in multiples maybe your subconscious has just had enough. Maybe.

Another suggestion, spicing things up in the bedroom?? Maybe have him tie you up? Or whatever your into 😉

If you have tried that already, and you’re still not satisfied, at the end of the day, we’re all only going around this planet one time. If you’re not going to make the best of it then what’s the point? Right?

This is your decision. You need to be happy in the end. Sit down with him and have this conversation. If it’s really time for him to go – and for you to move on – then that’s what you should do.

Aadie

Got Problems? Let SuicideGirls’ team of Agony Aunts provide solutions. Email questions to: gotproblems@suicidegirls.com