Q:There’s this guy that I’ve been into since I meet him. After I broke up with my BF we started to fool around but haven’t kissed or fucked. I thought he was into me and so did everyone else, so I finally told him I liked him. He said that he wasn’t interested in me like that. It’s been about a month since I told him I liked him, and I’m not over it. I don’t even understand why I liked him in the first place, or why he showed that he was into me but said differently. Could you please help make sense of all this? I would like to move on but it seems like I can’t.
As many of you already know, Evangeline tragically died in a car crash earlier this year. Known outside of SG as both Lauren Brook Matyis and Ari Said, she was just 25, and is survived by a 4-year old daughter, Avigail Jerusalem Matyis.
It’s always especially sad when we lose one of our own. Below, two members of our community that knew and loved Evangeline – filmmaker Michael Charron (a.k.a. SG Member: MichaelElder), and artist, actress and SG Tatian – remember her vibrant, creative, talented, generous, and loving spirit.
R.I.P.
Our condolences go out to the family, loved ones, and friends she left behind.
SG
XOX
(A trust fund has been set up for Evangeline’s daughter – see details at the footer of this piece.)
Driving down the quaint streets of Chatham on Cape Cod is always a reality check for me. The gorgeous colonial style historic homes with vast lawns and wrap around porches lay quietly by the sea, so perfect in their rustic yet modern décor, looking as though a horse drawn buggy would be a better fit in the driveway rather than a SUV. I have always wanted a home like that. I want something old fashioned by the water, somewhere were I can drink sangria on the porch with my husband and look out at the sea. I could stare at these houses forever, just dreaming of a life that right now, seems so out of reach.
I left a seaside town to move to the city, traded the ocean in my backyard for a concrete ocean and non-stop traffic, horns and sirens. Constant college party screams and shouts lull me to sleep instead of the waves and the cry of seagulls. Instead of tasting salt in the breeze, you might get the occasional AC water drip from the apartments above you. I am used to this city life now, and I do miss it when it’s gone, but I can’t see myself retiring and settling down here forever. For me, right now, this is what I have convinced myself I need. This city has always catered to my single needs. Even when I had a boyfriend this city did nothing to help “us” live a quieter happy couple life. We’re late nighters. Our only consistency in life was the same bar stool we would sit in after work. We had no place in a place like the Cape. We didn’t belong there, we belonged here in this tragedy.
It’s a much different story than just city life vs. country life. To me it’s like two different worlds. Move me to one of those houses on the Cape without me feeling like I’m completely done with this city bar scene and I would be lost. My only question –– is it going to be enough? What am I waiting for? More money? The perfect person to bring with me? If I wanted that life so badly things would have been different. I could have moved home to Rhode Island this year but I couldn’t do it. I was supposed to move to San Diego this September, but the thought of leaving Boston just became too horrifying for me. It was just easier to stay, to keep doing what I’m doing. Why stir the pot when things are pretty much alright the way they are? This city has become the ultimate enabler, allowing me to live a crazy life from which I want no rescue.
WHY DO YOU LOVE IT?: It’s chock full of news and resources that I never would have known about otherwise. Best recent discovery? The incident which led to the creation of the SlutWalk. How fucking cool is that? Also, Morgan (the group owner and moderator) is fair when dealing with problem posters. She gives everyone a chance, but doesn’t hesitate to boot them if they’re trolls. That keeps the headdesk-inducing threads to a minimum.
DISCUSSION TIP: You have the right to your opinion, and everyone else has the right to respond to it, even if it’s to disagree.
MOST HEATED DISCUSSION THREAD: A lot of the threads get passionate, but I think the most consistently active one is the Rantspace rant thread. Not only is it eye-opening, but it’s like a support group within the group. I find it very cathartic to both read and post in that thread.
WHO’S WELCOME TO JOIN?: Anyone interested in learning about promoting equality of any sort, not just gender-equality.
Mission Statement: Having experimented with other kinds of clothes I began my lingerie line in 2004. I was always a lingerie consumer, but couldn’t find nice things over here (I live in South América). After working in a big factorywhich made swimwear, I decide to start with my personal own line, and launched my brand Majo Rey. What I do, or want to transmit to the people who consume the brand, is the spirit of being young and sexy. It’s important to feel comfortable and sexy at the same time. The brand has a lot of myself in it; It’s for powerful, independent women with a rock & roll spirit.
